The following pieces contain language that may be offensive. Some of the pieces deal with sensitive matters, surviving 7 years of child sexual abuse and 16 years of mental and physical child abuse. I used to think being a survivor of childhood abuse gave me a purpose - but now that I have a daughter who was born with a life threatening CHD called Truncus Arteriosus, my purpose has become greater than me - my work has shifted slightly to include her. Enjoy!
The first time his father saw it. There
on that piece of white paper. He was proud and knew he had given his son the
best he could. There on that piece of paper was a word made of 6 tiny letters,
but was a looking glass of what was to come.It held a future much bigger than either could have hoped for. His father
passed on the legacy of life in his last name to a son honored to take it and uphold
all of its integrity because this son knows the challenges and triumphs in his
His last name bears a meaning of
truth through time and generations. It swaddles the relationships of love,
hope, and happiness. It holds the honor and courage to be the man his father
was, aspire to live life to the fullest leaving no regrets, always seek the
truth, and to continue the circle of life - full of giving, caring, and
sharing.In his last name he finds the
endless pursuit of finding life’s meaning, and to understand what you cannot
bear - you don’t have to do it alone. He wants his father to know, he will always
be a part of him no matter the time or distance that passes.
Along his journey of life, his son
met a woman whom he fell in love with; his decision to marry was not taken lightly
for he knew he would be giving her - his last name. There is not one day she
does not cherish his last name for is means more to her than her birth name.It has meaning far greater than what appears on
the surface or on that piece of paper – it is a part of her and a part of an
unbreakable bond between this father and son.
Now many years later, this man and woman
began a new circle of life in sharing his last name with a son. His son has
grown to love his last name, and shares it with anyone who asks - freely openly,
proudly. One day his son will come to find his road is divided, and together
they will know it is his time to make his way through life’s journey and on the
step of goodbye, he hugs his father and says you will always be a part of me.
No matter the distance or time that passes.
This father shares in the joy of a
new baby girl. Years will pass and the day will come that he will walk his
daughter down the aisle and give her away to the man she chooses to be her life
partner. She will whisper in her daddy’s ear – I will always be your little
girl, and no matter that on this day my last name will change – you will always
be a part of me. No matter the distance or time that passes.
All because he decided to share - his
The following is a song performed by country singer,
Dierks Bentley, which inspired this piece:
Years ago a man made life's greatest decision to share his name and a piece of
him by having a child. The child born a male with bright blue eyes and blonde
hair represented all of this father’s hopes and dreams. He hoped his son would
be smart, loving, full of life, and have the tenacity that would bring him all
of life's riches. As the years passed he watched his boy become a man, and he
realized no matter the distance that kept them apart, nor circumstance, no
matter the situation that separated them too early, he knew his son was cut of
the same cloth.
He watched his son serve a country
in honor, he admired his ability to learn his trade, and enjoy the blood of
happiness and love when his son met his divine soul mate in life. This father
knew he had done all he could to provide his son with life's purpose and
direction. He knew it all had come true the moment he saw his grandchild for
the first time, it was then that any doubt about the type of man he had
fathered washed away with the tide of uncertainty. His son was just like him. This
father raised a child into a man who gave more to this life than he ever asked
for, his riches came in the blessing of a prosperous life. This father knew his
son became a great man, a commonality they both shared.
This father should know his son
loves him dearly, talks of him often, and admires to be all that his father is.
This son is thankful for his father each day and even though the miles are
between them, there isn't a day he doesn't think about him. He thanks his
father for giving him the cloth of life and his name to carry on for his son.
The tradition of fatherhood lives strong in their hearts and minds, and now
through another generation. This father set good examples and lived by an
ethical code that provided many rules, but most of all it provided a unity
greater than any other, a bond between this father and son.
Take in peace and comfort knowing his
son who will take life's greatest challenges head on and steadfast knowing his
castle has been built of brick and mortar and will not faulter to the hard stones of life pelting the walls,for his cloth is much too great.